Disclaimer: writing this from a window.
Wow. It's funny, I came here from your post in the neuro-emotions thread and I thought, just before coming here, "hmm, what kind of relationship difficulties..." I get here and I can relate to it so much!
"I don't get it. One minute, my wife is the most sympathetic person in the world, but then she gets tunnel vision and thinks I should just deal."
OMG. If I could high five over bad news, it would be this. My girlfriend is very supportive most of the time but yes, some days it feels like I'm expected to 'just deal'. On those days I feel like I have to muster up what little energy I have to explain, again, that SSRI withdrawal is real (and I provide links to scientific studies with conclusive evidence), that I am experiencing it, and that yes the symptoms are as bad as they are described at the aforementioned links. Doing so makes me feel like I'm part of some cult with pseudoscientific beliefs, and that I'm trying to convert everyone around me into believing it!
I've given up trying to convince doubters though, or even the occasional doubter. I just iterate that the evidence is out there, I can signpost you there if necessary and then get on with my coping regimen! I think most people here have come to the realization that unless someone is experiencing or has experienced SSRI withdrawal, then they are unlikely to ever understand waves, how long they can last, and how unpredictable they are. What makes me feel better is acceptance. That is accepting that my expectations are now low, this is a journey I must complete alone, and that at the end of it, I will be a better person and will have a profound insight into people's true colors.
When my waves are bad, I think it is reasonable for me to draw a line and say 'sorry, I just cannot do that'. At the beginning this included some very basic tasks. When there are stressful consequences to me saying 'no' then I try to remove that stressor. When the stressor is your partner? Damn, I am still working that one out. The last 24 hours have been tough for me but luckily it was all in a window. I think things are resolved now but like you, it was about me taking on a few more responsibilities that I felt I couldn't handle.
I compromised and things are okay again. I hope that I can milk a few more months of peace out of this compromise though but it lately it seems that as I make progress through withdrawal people become less patient with me.
For what it's worth: you are working a job and being productive, that's a miracle for someone in withdrawal from my perspective! That makes you borderline superhuman, so it should be good enough for those closest to you.
2010: Unknown SSRI for 48 hours for anxiety, stopped CT due to side effects.
2012: Generic Paxil (paroxetine) for about 2 weeks (cannot recall dose) for anxiety, stopped CT due to side effects, major WD for about 1 month. Started on generic Prozac (fluoxetine) 40mg daily for anxiety. (Started self-directed CBT due to limited finances to help with my anxiety disorders, this worked slowly but well and is the reason I got better).
2013: Updosed to 60mg fluoxetine and dropped to 40mg a few times due to teething problems with CBT
2014: Continued 40mg fluoxetine daily. CBT going well.
2015: Wanted to stop fluoxetine as CBT was the only thing relieving my anxiety, not the drug. Did ill-advised alternate day taper, weekly taper, then instructed to stop at around 20mg a week. Major WD about 2 weeks later, reinstated at 40mg fluoxetine daily.
2016 Jan to May: Continued 40mg fluoxetine daily but felt some lingering WD.
2016 Jun to Sep: Continued 40mg fluoxetine daily but had some intensified side effects when I tried another fluoxetine manufacturer. I then felt more intense WD, so decided to taper again as I did in 2015, and reached about 20mg weekly. WD intensified. I researched WD via reputable sources.
Oct 2016 to Apr 2017 (present): Found SA and decided to try to stabilize, hoping reinstatement would work. I am proud to have stuck with 20mg fluoxetine daily, without fail, for about 6 months. Tried water titration but did 100% liquid for one day followed by 50% the next, bad wave resulted. Back on 100% capsules now.