I guess this topic is directed mainly to guys, but how are you dealing and coping with sexual dysfunction issues and family/friends.
Specifically, my family is pushing me to find a woman and get married. My friends are always asking me when am I going to get a girlfriend. My friends are also trying to find me a girlfriend and everytime we go out they always pressure me to talk to girls.
Anytime I go on vacation somewhere it's always, if we can't meet girls lets go pay some money for hookers. But I don't want to do that either. If I happen to go on a date with someone the first question I get asked is did we have sex?
The majority of my friends are either married or in a relationship. I haven't had a girlfriend in years. People at my work are always asking me howcome I don't have a girlfriend and giving me advice on how to get one. I am 32 years old and I feel like I've fallen behind everyone and there is pressure on me to find someone and get married and have kids. My neighbors who are much younger than me have just got engaged and one is already married with kids.
Don't get me wrong I really want to be with someone, I've been dying to get a girlfriend for years. But right now because of my erection issues I haven't been trying hard to meet someone. I don't really want to be with someone because of my sexual dysfunction issues.
If I had no issues at all of course I would be looking for someone. I know women here on this website will probably say you just have to find someone that is understanding. But a lot of women my age want to get married and have kids, time is running out for them too. I also find it very embarrsing that I have problems with my erections and other sexual dysfunction issues. I don't know if I would be able to tell someone. The only way would be if the girl has some similar issues as me or has lived with anxiety/depression like I have.
This is a very private issue and embarrassing problem for me. If my friends or family ever found out about this I'd go crazy.
So I guess my question to the guys on this website is, what do when your family and friends bring up the topic of meeting someone and getting married? How do you deal with this? How do you handle it?
When people ask me why am I not with someone or am not looking for someone or not looking to have sex what should I say? Or when someone is trying to get me to meet women what should I do? I wouldn't be suprised if people start thinking I am a homosexual because I haven't had a girlfriend for so long.
I don't want to tell anyone the reason is because of my sexual dysfunction issues. What can I do? Should I just start avoiding everyone? I really don't know what to do. But I am really tired of this.
Thanks, sorry for the rant but I had to get this off my chest.
As bad as it may sound, sometimes I wish other family/friends go through what I've been through and then they would know how hard it is to live with this. And they can understand what I'm going through.