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#1 johnson

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Posted 04 August 2014 - 07:50 AM

Hi everyone,

 

I guess this topic is directed mainly to guys, but how are you dealing and coping with sexual dysfunction issues and family/friends.

Specifically, my family is pushing me to find a woman and get married. My friends are always asking me when am I going to get a girlfriend. My friends are also trying to find me a girlfriend and everytime we go out they always pressure me to talk to girls.

Anytime I go on vacation somewhere it's always, if we can't meet girls lets go pay some money for hookers. But I don't want to do that either. If I happen to go on a date with someone the first question I get asked is did we have sex?

 

The majority of my friends are either married or in a relationship. I haven't had a girlfriend in years. People at my work are always asking me howcome I don't have a girlfriend and giving me advice on how to get one. I am 32 years old and I feel like I've fallen behind everyone and there is pressure on me to find someone and get married and have kids. My neighbors who are much younger than me have just got engaged and one is already married with kids.

Don't get me wrong I really want to be with someone, I've been dying to get a girlfriend for years. But right now because of my erection issues I haven't been trying hard to meet someone. I don't really want to be with someone because of my sexual dysfunction issues.

If I had no issues at all of course I would be looking for someone. I know women here on this website will probably say you just have to find someone that is understanding. But a lot of women my age want to get married and have kids, time is running out for them too. I also find it very embarrsing that I have problems with my erections and other sexual dysfunction issues. I don't know if I would be able to tell someone. The only way would be if the girl has some similar issues as me or has lived with anxiety/depression like I have.

This is a very private issue and embarrassing problem for me. If my friends or family ever found out about this I'd go crazy.

 

So I guess my question to the guys on this website is, what do when your family and friends bring up the topic of meeting someone and getting married? How do you deal with this? How do you handle it?

When people ask me why am I not with someone or am not looking for someone or not looking to have sex what should I say? Or when someone is trying to get me to meet women what should I do? I wouldn't be suprised if people start thinking I am a homosexual because I haven't had a girlfriend for so long.

I don't want to tell anyone the reason is because of my sexual dysfunction issues. What can I do? Should I just start avoiding everyone? I really don't know what to do. But I am really tired of this.

 

Thanks, sorry for the rant but I had to get this off my chest.

As bad as it may sound, sometimes I wish other family/friends go through what I've been through and then they would know how hard it is to live with this. And they can understand what I'm going through.


2000 - took accutane for my acne 2001 - On Paxil for about 6 months. Stopped due to side effects mainly severe stomach pain, extreme fatigue, headaches

2006 to 2009 - Went on 150mg of Wellbutrin/Bupropion for about 3 years. Side effects were again stomach pain, fatigue and frequent urination. Didn't feel like it helped my anxiety/depression so I stopped cold turkey. I did not have any major problems after going cold turkey at the time.

2009 to 2012 - Starting taking 100 mg of 5htp and whack load of other supplements(multivitamin, omega 3, protein shake, amino acids, sage, magnesium, vitamin D3, apple cider vinegar pills) every other day. Helped with my anxiety/mood quite a bit.

April 2012 - first signs of sexual dysfunction(pre-cum all the time especially when going to the bathroom to pee and not aroused), but issues were minor. But also had feeling as if I am ready to ejaculate all the time.

June 2012 - major weight loss, was about 15 pounds underweight and severe stomach pain and cramps

Nov 27 2012 - Took last pill of 5htp 50mg. Worst issue severe sexual dysfunction(can't get or sustain an strong erection, loss of feeling, no orgasm, no desire for sexual activity, delayed ejaculation, pre-cum when i'm not aroused, feeling of arousal all the time without thoughts) and frequent urination which is why I stopped taking 5htp and all other supplements completely cold turkey. Experienced the following side effects the past year while still taking the supplement and while getting off;

Feb 2013 - started major symptoms of frequent urination Dec 2013 - issues with muscle tension. Neck shoulder and headaches

insomnia,hives,eye twitching, restless legs, frequent urination/tingling sensation, upset stomach, cramps, bloating, diarrhea, severe sexual dysfunction(no erection, no feeling, no orgasm, delayed ejaculation, premature ejaculation, constant arousal, pre-cum a lot more than normal, morning erection not as strong as it used to be, cold damp genitals) ,headaches, brain zaps, dizziness, nausea, chills, fatigue, anxiety. Lack of natural body sweat especially when active.no emotion,tinnitus

 

Present Issues - sexual dysfunction and frequent urination, headaches, shoulder and neck pain. Cold feeling in between my thigh area and Genitals. Tingling/arousal feeling in Penis. Premature ejac. Have gotten the so called "24 hour flu" 4 times over the past two years in withdrawal.

Nov 27, 2015 - 3 years off since I took my last pill of 5HTP, 5-6 years since taking last pill of Wellbutrin

 


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Posted 11 February 2015 - 11:49 PM

 I know women here on this website will probably say you just have to find someone that is understanding. But a lot of women my age want to get married and have kids, time is running out for them too. I also find it very embarrsing that I have problems with my erections and other sexual dysfunction issues. I don't know if I would be able to tell someone. 


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Posted 10 March 2015 - 10:14 AM

You could have your testosterone levels checked.  My husbands levels dropped dramatically from using anti-depressants, this is a known side effect of these medications.  He now goes to a Low T center and gets a weekly injection. The plan is for him to hopefully eventually not have to continue this as he is still young but he has only been off of everything a little more than a year.  He suffered from erectile dysfunction prior to the injections but is now much much better.

 

On another note: sex is only a piece of a marriage.  Yes it's true that no sex or bad sex can lead to divorce but if someone loves you they will love all of you and be patient with this. And why would you want to marry and settle down with a woman that would jump into bed with you on the 1st date anyway?  You can still approach a relationship with a woman.  Many women will appreciate not being pressured into sex right away and believe it or not there are still women that will wait until after marriage for sex despite what the media portrays.  There are so many stages of marriage and sex often times dies down after time, don't let this hold you back.

 

 

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Posted 11 March 2015 - 04:33 PM

I have thought about this long and hard as I have not had sex in how long now... 2006 July 10th such a math some days. 

"I haven't had a girlfriend in years. People at my work are always asking me howcome I don't have a girlfriend and giving me advice on how to get one"

 

I am a woman so not everything applies but I get asked this too all the time... why not date... blah blah blah... I am so sick of hearing it too.  There are well meaning people trying to set me up all the time... I don't want to deal with it.  

 

I think you idea of finding a lady with the same issue as yourself maybe worth looking into tho I am not sure how you would go about doing that.... and if she wanted a child there is always science. I am sure they could pull something off to make it happen with all the new things they have.  Why not... at least you would both know the joy of being parents.   Wd takes so much from us already it would be a shame if that were taken too. Just think it may be a decent idea I am sure there are some out there your age or younger who have the same issues. 

I hope you find a way to work it out. 

 

I once thought of getting some testosterone too like Devastedwife suggested but being female was not sure it would hurt me... and I was told by a moderator at another forum to just wait and it would fix itself to add to the mix of drug imbalances with a hormone would just make it take longer... but apparently maybe it is not the same for men.  I don't know you would have to ask one who has tried it maybe DW husband could tell you more about it. 


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Codeine was the pain med when I was release from hosp continuous use till 89
Given PROZAC by a specialist to help with nerve pain in my leg 89-90 not sure which year
Was not told a thing about it being a psych med thought it was a pain killer no info about psych side effects I went nuts had hallucinations. As I had a head injury and was diagnosed with a concussion in 85 I was sent to a head injury clinic in 1990 five years after the accident. I don't think they knew I had been on prozac I did not think it a big deal and never did finish the bottle of pills. I had tests of course lots of them. Was put into a pain clinic and given amitriptyline which stopped the withdrawal but had many side effects. But I could sleep something I had not done in a very long time the pain lessened. My mother got cancer in 94 they switched my meds to Zoloft to help deal with this pressure as I was her main care giver she died in 96. I stopped zoloft in 96 had withdrawal was put on paxil went nutty quit it ct put on resperidol quit it ct had withdrawal was put on Effexor... 2years later celexa was added 20mg then increased to 40mg huge personality change went wild. Did too fast taper off Celexa 05 as I felt unwell for a long time prior... quit Effexor 150mg ct 07 found ****** 8 months into withdrawal learned some things was banned from there in 08 have kept learning since. there is really not enough room here to put my history but I have a lot of opinions about a lot of things especially any of the drugs mentioned above.
One thing I would like to add here is this tidbit ALL OPIATES INCREASE SEROTONIN it is not a huge jump to being in chronic pain to being put on an ssri/snri and opiates will affect your antidepressants and your thinking.

As I do not update much I will put my quit date Nov. 17 2007 I quit Effexor cold turkey. 

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Posted 13 March 2015 - 01:02 AM

I know women here on this website will probably say you just have to find someone that is understanding. But a lot of women my age want to get married and have kids, time is running out for them too. I also find it very embarrsing that I have problems with my erections and other sexual dysfunction issues. I don't know if I would be able to tell someone.


I'm 30, have no children yet, and if I cared about you, I would be with you despite your issue. Yes, I want kids. But, if the person I marry cannot do that, then maybe they aren't in the cards. I just wanted to give you some encouragement. If you find who you are meant to be with, you can work around it. And, I believe it will resolve with time.
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5/2014-7/2014-Tapered Ativan from 1mg to .25mg.....6/2014-Bad reaction to Effexor........7/2014- Rapid taper Effexor every other day......7/5/2014- Off Effexor.......7/2014-12/2014 - Ativan .25mg.......12/25/2014 -Taper Ativan by 4% due to paradoxical reaction .24mg...11/18/2015-Taper Ativan 1% CURRENTLY ON: .2376mg Ativan taken in 6 .0396mg doses.

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 12:30 AM

im not sure if the original poster is still about, but one thing i recommend is to gain some self-confidence through learning and getting advice on non-"PIV" (penis-in-******) sexual methods.  im not saying to give up on having a more comprehensive sex life, but ED and general sexual dysfunction is not an insurmountable obstacle to procreation, if that is a primary issue, and many girls seem to appreciate other forms of stimulation.  (some even prefer them, but i dont know what percentage, or how many of those ladies are ok with not having a more immediate hope for something more...er, directly phallic.)

 

but, i guess my two points are: self-confidence is important---i am a guy and i know esteem and relational success, to varying extents, do indeed ride on ones perception of sexual ability and vitality in many cases, and you can build self-confidence in more ways than working to overcome/cope with PSSD.  and, secondly, perhaps you can find a girl who doesnt base the relationship on whether or not you are fully capable of all forms of intercourse immediately (or even, potentially, later on).

 

 

due to social differentiation, radical philosophies, general wildness, anxiety, and fringe compatibility, i have spent most of my life romantically uninvolved as well.  people who grew up with me figured, especially by high school, that i was some form of alien or asexual because i was so withheld and selective about my sexual preferences and particular female interests.  especially now that its a decade later and almost everyone i knew back then, and most people ive gotten to know since then (including exes), are married, and even having kids...it is quite awkward, and enhancing the natural loneliness my situation of otherliness and differentiation already brought to bear.

 

kids i helped raise as a teenager are getting married and starting families, for chrissake, and that is, in some ways, completely demoralizing, not that im interested in starting a family with cublings and such.  not just because my progress in finding a partner has seemed rather delayed and rarely even partially fruitful, but also because my sense of time and chronology and order were so impacted by the medications that i feel around 7 years younger than i really am.  i dont fit in their time OR mine, and, in quickly approaching my 30s, i am even more skeptical than ever about the prospect of there being a truly fitting individual.

 

in taking heavy antipsychotics, and subsequently withdrawing in dramatic and painful ways from them, i have experienced varying degrees of dysfunction.  it was difficult, and occurred during multiple of the string of relationships i managed across the past decade, but since i often dated people who suffered at least some of the 'mental disorders' i was diagnosed with, many were relatively understanding of the struggle and we were still able to have mutually satisfactory interactions.  (luckily, basically all of my relationships fell in the period before the meds completely axed my entire sexuality for a few years, and even the ones that came after that were not as impinged in my withdrawal as they would have been by the utter zombification of previous.)

 

 

so, ultimately, i think you should, in a non-confrontational manner, accept that you arent actually different in a way meaningful to your humanity, and people who try to frame and treat you that way will learn their lessons in due time.  not in some vindictive way, but acknowledging that experience is the granter of wisdom, and some people are just not ready for the wisdom others may have.  i cant really give you a 'youll find her someday' pep talk, because my faith in the serious and monogamous drive towards partnership as perpetuated by a mutually interested female party is shaky (or steeped in denial) at best, but i can at least reiterate what i have heard, and others here have said: you are acceptable, and beyond that enjoyable, to some of the potential partners out there.  finding them can be tough, and not all of them will be otherwise compatible, but what youre hoping for, in the practical sense, does at least exist.

 

i dont think contextless advice for handling particular individuals and challenging social situations would be of much help, so ill close this by expressing my approval of your ironically chosen username.  (or maybe ive made a terrible mistake in misunderstanding, in which case i apologize, and should express that i dont feel you should hold yourself as shameful in any way for experiencing side effects.)


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antidepressants (SSRIs, SNRIs, NDRIs, tetracyclics): zoloft, wellbutrin, effexor, lexapro, prozac, cymbalta, remeron
antipsychotics (atypical): abilify, zyprexa, risperdal, geodon
sleep aids (benzos, off-label antidepressants & antipsychotics, hypnotics): seroquel, temazepam, trazodone, ambien
anxiolytics: buspar
anticonvulsants: topamax
 
i tapered off all psychotropics from late 2011 through early 2013, one by one.  for all 5 years since quitting, ive been cycling through severe, disabling withdrawal symptoms spanning the gamut of the serious, less serious, and rather worrisome side effects of these assorted medications.  previous cross-tapering and medication or dosage changes had also caused undiagnosed withdrawal symptoms.
 
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Posted 17 March 2015 - 02:35 PM

Thank you all for taking the time to reply on my topic. I know everyone has their own issues to deal with and I thank you for dropping by. Sorry if I sound selfish talking about myself and my experiences.

 

Even when I can mentally get myself past the sexual dysfunction issues and decide I want to be with someone, the other problem I have is I get tension headaches on a regular basis.

The problem with this is that when it gets bad it's almost like I am completely disabled. It's hard to function and live life. On the days where my headaches are really bad, I would basically somehow manage to get through work, come home eat some food and then lay down in bed for the rest of the night. That's why sometimes I would rather wait till the worst of my recovery is over so I can put my attention towards someone. But on the other hand I'd probably be the happiest person alive if I could find someone who is nice and understanding. This whole thing is so difficult for me.

 

So I feel like if my hands aren't tied because of sexual dysfunction, they are tied because of headaches.

 

One other thing that bothers me, is that I feel like I'm stuck. I'm still at home with my parents at 32. I really want to move out and live on my own but the days that I get really bad headaches I'm thankful that I still live at home otherwise I would be screwed. Even before all this started I struggled with finding a girlfriend for a very long time, when I finally did meet someone who was interested in me I started having sexual dysfunction issues! If bothers my everyday that people have moved on but I'm still living in the same home for the past 20-25 years. Sometimes I can forget it and let it go...

 

I just hope things will get better and I keep sticking to my plan. Which is to recover and then work on my goals in life.

(It's been almost 28 months since I've taken any pills or supplements, I've been checked out by my doctor for various tests and everything always comes back fine, I am going for an MRI to see if there is any issues with my head/neck for my headaches)

 

I hope everything gets better for you all and you will get past this and recover and accomplish everything you set out for in life and will do what makes you happy and live in peace!

thanks invisibleunless, btdt, wildflower and devastedwife for your kind comments and sharing your personal experience with me. It's definitely helped.

 

P.S. the name Johnson was just a coincidence


2000 - took accutane for my acne 2001 - On Paxil for about 6 months. Stopped due to side effects mainly severe stomach pain, extreme fatigue, headaches

2006 to 2009 - Went on 150mg of Wellbutrin/Bupropion for about 3 years. Side effects were again stomach pain, fatigue and frequent urination. Didn't feel like it helped my anxiety/depression so I stopped cold turkey. I did not have any major problems after going cold turkey at the time.

2009 to 2012 - Starting taking 100 mg of 5htp and whack load of other supplements(multivitamin, omega 3, protein shake, amino acids, sage, magnesium, vitamin D3, apple cider vinegar pills) every other day. Helped with my anxiety/mood quite a bit.

April 2012 - first signs of sexual dysfunction(pre-cum all the time especially when going to the bathroom to pee and not aroused), but issues were minor. But also had feeling as if I am ready to ejaculate all the time.

June 2012 - major weight loss, was about 15 pounds underweight and severe stomach pain and cramps

Nov 27 2012 - Took last pill of 5htp 50mg. Worst issue severe sexual dysfunction(can't get or sustain an strong erection, loss of feeling, no orgasm, no desire for sexual activity, delayed ejaculation, pre-cum when i'm not aroused, feeling of arousal all the time without thoughts) and frequent urination which is why I stopped taking 5htp and all other supplements completely cold turkey. Experienced the following side effects the past year while still taking the supplement and while getting off;

Feb 2013 - started major symptoms of frequent urination Dec 2013 - issues with muscle tension. Neck shoulder and headaches

insomnia,hives,eye twitching, restless legs, frequent urination/tingling sensation, upset stomach, cramps, bloating, diarrhea, severe sexual dysfunction(no erection, no feeling, no orgasm, delayed ejaculation, premature ejaculation, constant arousal, pre-cum a lot more than normal, morning erection not as strong as it used to be, cold damp genitals) ,headaches, brain zaps, dizziness, nausea, chills, fatigue, anxiety. Lack of natural body sweat especially when active.no emotion,tinnitus

 

Present Issues - sexual dysfunction and frequent urination, headaches, shoulder and neck pain. Cold feeling in between my thigh area and Genitals. Tingling/arousal feeling in Penis. Premature ejac. Have gotten the so called "24 hour flu" 4 times over the past two years in withdrawal.

Nov 27, 2015 - 3 years off since I took my last pill of 5HTP, 5-6 years since taking last pill of Wellbutrin

 


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Posted 17 March 2015 - 05:31 PM

I know there are other ways of having kids and sexual dysfunction isn't "the end of the world", but I want to do it the natural way. Sex is one of life's greatest pleasures. Especially when it's with someone you are really in love with. There's nothing more to it for me then that.


2000 - took accutane for my acne 2001 - On Paxil for about 6 months. Stopped due to side effects mainly severe stomach pain, extreme fatigue, headaches

2006 to 2009 - Went on 150mg of Wellbutrin/Bupropion for about 3 years. Side effects were again stomach pain, fatigue and frequent urination. Didn't feel like it helped my anxiety/depression so I stopped cold turkey. I did not have any major problems after going cold turkey at the time.

2009 to 2012 - Starting taking 100 mg of 5htp and whack load of other supplements(multivitamin, omega 3, protein shake, amino acids, sage, magnesium, vitamin D3, apple cider vinegar pills) every other day. Helped with my anxiety/mood quite a bit.

April 2012 - first signs of sexual dysfunction(pre-cum all the time especially when going to the bathroom to pee and not aroused), but issues were minor. But also had feeling as if I am ready to ejaculate all the time.

June 2012 - major weight loss, was about 15 pounds underweight and severe stomach pain and cramps

Nov 27 2012 - Took last pill of 5htp 50mg. Worst issue severe sexual dysfunction(can't get or sustain an strong erection, loss of feeling, no orgasm, no desire for sexual activity, delayed ejaculation, pre-cum when i'm not aroused, feeling of arousal all the time without thoughts) and frequent urination which is why I stopped taking 5htp and all other supplements completely cold turkey. Experienced the following side effects the past year while still taking the supplement and while getting off;

Feb 2013 - started major symptoms of frequent urination Dec 2013 - issues with muscle tension. Neck shoulder and headaches

insomnia,hives,eye twitching, restless legs, frequent urination/tingling sensation, upset stomach, cramps, bloating, diarrhea, severe sexual dysfunction(no erection, no feeling, no orgasm, delayed ejaculation, premature ejaculation, constant arousal, pre-cum a lot more than normal, morning erection not as strong as it used to be, cold damp genitals) ,headaches, brain zaps, dizziness, nausea, chills, fatigue, anxiety. Lack of natural body sweat especially when active.no emotion,tinnitus

 

Present Issues - sexual dysfunction and frequent urination, headaches, shoulder and neck pain. Cold feeling in between my thigh area and Genitals. Tingling/arousal feeling in Penis. Premature ejac. Have gotten the so called "24 hour flu" 4 times over the past two years in withdrawal.

Nov 27, 2015 - 3 years off since I took my last pill of 5HTP, 5-6 years since taking last pill of Wellbutrin

 


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Posted 18 March 2015 - 12:15 AM

Your not selfish at all..it's good to share stuff that is troubling you..

Due to all this 'stuff' with ad and withdrawal, I moved back home at 31 and I cannot get out now as I'm terrified to be alone. I also cannot work so it would be difficult to be able to move out just now anyway. It bothers me also that people have moved on and I seem to be stuck, but that's just how it is for now..

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On/off sertraline severe withdrawals every time. 2014 - felt better as reduced dose of sertraline no more inner restlessness. Doctor rushed off again. Hit severe withdrawal. Lost the little I had in life. Couldn't get stable again on 12.5mg. Was switched to prozac. Had severe reaction to prozac..came off in November 2015 at 6mg as felt more confused and damaged on it..Even more withdrawal ..rage, depression, dyphoria, near constant suicidal ideation, self harm impulses, doom, concrete block in head, unable to do much of anything with this feeling in head..went back on 6mg of sertraline to see if would alleviate anything. It didn't..reduced from December to June 2016 came off at 2.5mg sertraline as was hospitalised for the severe rage, suicidal impulses, and put on 50mg lofepramine which in 2nd week reduced all symptoms but gave insomnia which still have..psych stopped lofepramine cold turkey..no increased withdrawal symptoms new symptoms from lofepramine except persistant insomnia which has as side effect.

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Posted 18 March 2015 - 02:27 PM

Your not selfish at all..it's good to share stuff that is troubling you..

Due to all this 'stuff' with ad and withdrawal, I moved back home at 31 and I cannot get out now as I'm terrified to be alone. I also cannot work so it would be difficult to be able to move out just now anyway. It bothers me also that people have moved on and I seem to be stuck, but that's just how it is for now..

All the best to you.

Thanks for dropping by. At least I know I'm not alone.

 

I really hope things get better for you.

 

Take care.


2000 - took accutane for my acne 2001 - On Paxil for about 6 months. Stopped due to side effects mainly severe stomach pain, extreme fatigue, headaches

2006 to 2009 - Went on 150mg of Wellbutrin/Bupropion for about 3 years. Side effects were again stomach pain, fatigue and frequent urination. Didn't feel like it helped my anxiety/depression so I stopped cold turkey. I did not have any major problems after going cold turkey at the time.

2009 to 2012 - Starting taking 100 mg of 5htp and whack load of other supplements(multivitamin, omega 3, protein shake, amino acids, sage, magnesium, vitamin D3, apple cider vinegar pills) every other day. Helped with my anxiety/mood quite a bit.

April 2012 - first signs of sexual dysfunction(pre-cum all the time especially when going to the bathroom to pee and not aroused), but issues were minor. But also had feeling as if I am ready to ejaculate all the time.

June 2012 - major weight loss, was about 15 pounds underweight and severe stomach pain and cramps

Nov 27 2012 - Took last pill of 5htp 50mg. Worst issue severe sexual dysfunction(can't get or sustain an strong erection, loss of feeling, no orgasm, no desire for sexual activity, delayed ejaculation, pre-cum when i'm not aroused, feeling of arousal all the time without thoughts) and frequent urination which is why I stopped taking 5htp and all other supplements completely cold turkey. Experienced the following side effects the past year while still taking the supplement and while getting off;

Feb 2013 - started major symptoms of frequent urination Dec 2013 - issues with muscle tension. Neck shoulder and headaches

insomnia,hives,eye twitching, restless legs, frequent urination/tingling sensation, upset stomach, cramps, bloating, diarrhea, severe sexual dysfunction(no erection, no feeling, no orgasm, delayed ejaculation, premature ejaculation, constant arousal, pre-cum a lot more than normal, morning erection not as strong as it used to be, cold damp genitals) ,headaches, brain zaps, dizziness, nausea, chills, fatigue, anxiety. Lack of natural body sweat especially when active.no emotion,tinnitus

 

Present Issues - sexual dysfunction and frequent urination, headaches, shoulder and neck pain. Cold feeling in between my thigh area and Genitals. Tingling/arousal feeling in Penis. Premature ejac. Have gotten the so called "24 hour flu" 4 times over the past two years in withdrawal.

Nov 27, 2015 - 3 years off since I took my last pill of 5HTP, 5-6 years since taking last pill of Wellbutrin

 


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Posted 19 March 2015 - 09:34 PM

There were some words of wisdom on here from Wildflower.  Yes, many women want kids, but anyone who loves you will LOVE YOU ANYWAY.  I'd like kids, but these meds may have wrecked my chances.  I would hope a guy would understand that, and if I knew a guy couldn't have kids for medical reasons, I'd understand.

Besides, adoption is a beautiful possibility, too!


-Dual cold turkeys off TCA & Ativan in October 2014. Prescribed from 2011-2014, off-label for pain

-Meds were prescribed for an "autoimmune chronic pain disease."  It was a MISDIAGNOSIS, but did not find out until AFTER meds had caused total damage.  All med tapers & cold turkeys directed by doctors 

-Nortriptyline from May 2012 - Dec 2013

-Desipramine from Jan 2014 - October 2014. 60 mg reduced by 10 mg each month. Held 30 mg for 3 months. Rapid taper over 1 week from 30 mg down to 20, 10, 0

-Lorazepam 1 mg per night in 2011. In 2012, used 1 mg per month or less.  Lorazepam on & off Dec 2013 - Aug 2014, did not exceed 1.5 mg, did not exceed 3x a week

-On desipramine had muscle tremors & rigidity. Were they side effects or withdrawal effects as I reduced desip throughout 2014? Or was I in WD from nortrip as I was on desip? First muscle/dystonia side effects started on nortriptyline, but docs were too stupid to help me figure it out

-Last dosage desip 10 mg on Oct. 29, 2014. Last dose lzpam 1 mg, Nov. 2, 2014. Paradoxical reactions to benzos after quitting TCAs

-Tardive dystonia, dyskinesia, myoclonic jerks ALL over body, ribcage wiggles, facial tics, twitching tongue & fingers, tremors/twitches of arms, legs, cognitive impairment, throat muscles semi-paralyzed & unable to swallow solid food, brain zaps, ears ring, dizzy, everything looks too far away, insomnia, numbness & electric shocks everywhere when I try to fall asleep, jerk awake from sleep with big, gasping breaths, wake with terrors & tremors, severely depressed.  NO HISTORY OF DEPRESSION, EVER. Meds CREATED it.

-Month 7 off meds: hair falling out; no improvement in vision; still tardive dystonia; facial & tongue tics returned
-Month 8 off meds: thrown back to acute, including Grand Mal seizure-like episodes. New mental torment, PGAD, worse insomnia
-Month 9 off meds: tardive dystonia worsened, dyskinesia returned. Unable to breathe well due to dystonia in stomach, chest, throat.
-Month 13 off meds: Back to total acute, brain zaps back, plus developed eczema & stomach problems. Left leg no longer works right due to dystonia, meaning both legs are now damaged