as everyone else, i can only stress a very cautiously slow taper and remind readers that my experience only speak for what worked for my own self.
firstly, if you are to eventually be free of the meds, in addition to a very slow taper, as people have explained the benefit of, i would prepare beforehand some sources of support and aid for the times when things might be harder, in those senses, than when you were taking the full dose you are now. support systems like buddies on here, and people 'in real life' that will be privy to your decision and be able to counsel and console you during the changes (positive or negative) that the tapering off might entail, perhaps some reading material (which has already been begun on recommendations above), and contingency plans in case situations of emergency or temptation arise.
i feel like your having tried to distance yourself from the medications before might give you a more balanced and wisened approach should you choose to give it another go.
my own experience with medications was that they perpetuated and universalized a depression and despair that had grown for years beforehand without proper address...it was not crystalized into an absolute and completely debilitating state until i begun my experiments with pharmacology. after ending my final doses of all meds (except a single one i kept a few months longer for the weight gain), i immediately felt much, much better. a literal and figurative weight was lifted, and it greatly enabled decisions i had long sought to live a healthier general life---better diet, better social habits, better self-view, etc.
but the most fundamental issue you pose is, i feel, simultaneously both the most important and the most diverse in answer: who is me, and who is the REAL me? i think that is up to your own decision...and not in terms of the answer, but rather your expression of decision IS the answer. the 'real you', in my opinion, is the you that is sitting there wondering if its a good idea to try stopping the meds again. the you that weighs the pros and cons and has concern over being one way or another. and, i dont think its mere introspection that makes a genuine individual---i understand that sometimes we almost entirely lose that, to situations or medications---but its our capacity to employ that introspective self that seems to be the distinguishing factor between our potential realities and personhoods. we are who we choose to be, ultimately...not because we have power over what happens to us, but because we get to decide how to react to that, and what perspectives and philosophies to hold in adapting, growing, and overcoming.
i feel like we have the responsibility to hear our own selves out---who could ever know us better than our own minds and bodies? its also responsible to, as you seem to have been, take into consideration the thoughts and concerns of others, especially ones that share your life or have been around to give you advice on these experiences. i think its very appropriate to be wondering about the implications on your family life and its constituent relationships and responsibilities, but your responsibility is not to be self-lobotomizing in your endeavor to be good to/for them---that would, on the whole, essentially cheat both them and yourself. i wouldnt pretend to have the answer, or the mind or authority to make a real suggestion to a stranger, and im sorry if this comes off as presumptive at parts. i can, at least, say that your concern and questioning gives me faith you can make good decisions, at whatever rate or in whatever context you next find yourself in.
as for the merits of having the capacity to feel, in greater depth and profundity...it seems warranted, to seek that which gives you the most vital and meaningful experience. there is a chance that greater difficulty, heartache, or sadness can result from healthcare decisions of this manner, and often there is no way to escape a cost regardless of which direction you take the matter. it sounds like your wondering, and this decision, is more than simply experiential in the immediate senses---it amounts to something far more existential.
sorry if im a little late to the party, and i hope you can feel acceptance, peace, and support for whatever decision you make.
from 2005-2012, i spent 7 years taking 17 different psychotropic medications covering several classes. i would be taking 3-7 medications at a time, and 6 out of the 17 medications listed below were maxed or overmaxed in clinical dosage before i moved on to trying the next unhelpful cocktail.
antidepressants (SSRIs, SNRIs, NDRIs, tetracyclics): zoloft, wellbutrin, effexor, lexapro, prozac, cymbalta, remeron
antipsychotics (atypical): abilify, zyprexa, risperdal, geodon
sleep aids (benzos, off-label antidepressants & antipsychotics, hypnotics): seroquel, temazepam, trazodone, ambien
i tapered off all psychotropics from late 2011 through early 2013, one by one. for all 5 years since quitting, ive been cycling through severe, disabling withdrawal symptoms spanning the gamut of the serious, less serious, and rather worrisome side effects of these assorted medications. previous cross-tapering and medication or dosage changes had also caused undiagnosed withdrawal symptoms.