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Blondiee1915

Hi everyone,

 

I was wondering if anyone had any experience dating while being in WD?  I am still not feeling great and have long way to go but I am better than where I was a year ago and was thinking about trying to go on a date and meeting someone special.  It gets lonely and I am in my early 30s and get worried that the clock is ticking and I will end up as a lonely woman with 30 cats and dogs.  I struggle with fatigue, anxiety, dizziness and some dp/dr.  I got an advice that I should try to live as of a normal life as I can and get myself out there.  Of course easier said than done.  Maybe it can help to take my mind off things, but then I worry about how do I explain to that person that I cannot hang out bc I am not feeling well and going through WD or that I cannot drink?  Maybe it is better to wait until I am much better, but at the same time I do not know when this will be.  

 

Any experience and advice will be greatly appreciated. 

 

B. 

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Quietis

im in the same boat, with the added benefit (right?) that the woman i loved just dumped me as son as my paroxetine wd hit the lowest. now i honestly doubt i am boyfriend material. hell, i can barely function as a human being. in your case, i would say try to find someone whom, if not going thru the same exact experiences that you have, maybe shared part of the struggle of mental illnesses and consequently stopping medications. the trick is you could empathize on a deeper level, but its also true the opposite, when people struggle, and struggle hard, forming a connection can be really difficult.. best way is to take it as it comes, and dont put too much hopes in it at first.. sounds like a trite advice, but its all i can think of right now, sorry :V

 

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bruno2016

i was in a relationship when i stopped taking the AD and the subsequently went into WD. I think for about the first 8-12 months of WD i stayed in the relationship although it was obviously impossible to maintain since I could not do the simplest things. We eventually went our separate ways and i then began dating about the 2.5 year mark, or around there. Dating was great and it felt good getting out and meeting women. For me, the dating was both good and bad during this healing process. For one, it was nice to FEEL for someone, be intimate, affectionate, etc...but at the same time, i was still not healed all the way and so was fairly sensitive which would cause me to feel bad. For example, if a woman stopped talking to me, that could set off some depression or feeling of low self worth. As the years went on, I healed up more and was much more balanced. I have a gf now who is great. 

 

The key for me was finding a woman who was not DRAMA! During this healing process if you choose to date, you need to be patient with yourself and have a person who is patient with you. None of this drama crap because it will affect your healing process. 

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Blondiee1915

Hi Bruno,

 

thanks for your input .  I have some okay days but some days are not good so I don't know if I should wait until I am more healed but at the same time I don't have much to do and it might take my mind off things .  I quickly read some of your posts and it looks like you started to feel better after 4 years ? That is such a long time .  When you started dating and still struggled with some of the WD stuff did you tell the person you were with about it ? 

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Blondiee1915

Quetis- thanks for your input and I am sorry about your ex.  That must be very difficult to deal with .  I don't necessary agree that the right person has to deal with the same things as me or struggles .  I agree it could bring a deeper connection but I kind of want not to think about it or talk about it when I am with someone .  It is like a ptsd for me .  I still struggle so I don't even know if I am making a right decision to get out there 

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bruno2016
24 minutes ago, Blondiee1915 said:

Hi Bruno,

 

thanks for your input .  I have some okay days but some days are not good so I don't know if I should wait until I am more healed but at the same time I don't have much to do and it might take my mind off things .  I quickly read some of your posts and it looks like you started to feel better after 4 years ? That is such a long time .  When you started dating and still struggled with some of the WD stuff did you tell the person you were with about it ? 

i think my time line is a bit unclear since i have been around for a long time and some things were not clear. I began feeling better around the two year mark. The first year was the worst. After two years i got better and better and as i said i began dating around 2.5 years. From two years on is when i saw lots of improvements but had a major setback in 2014 from a severe infection i got while abroad. 

 

its totally ok to date. As i said it was both good and bad for me. The key is to find someone who is patient with you in your times of feeling bad. Remember, most people cannot understand what we are going through and will assume things and take things personal. Communication and openness will be important and dont get involved with people who will bring drama bc it will cause setbacks. 

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