Facebook fun for a change of pace

[Nikki]

I go on FB many times. It is an opportunity for me to keep in touch with my cousins and see pics of their beautiful kids.

 

On my FB page it's mostly about Fun, Laughter, Beautiful Pics, and alot of Healing Philosophies. It is a marvelous distraction in a pleasant direction.

 

I know alot of people are skeptical and I understand that.

 

My friends and contacts keep it easy going and healthy. I guess it depends on who are your FB friends.

 

There was a friend who constantly posted very sad, disturbing stories, so I did block her. What a difference.

 

Words With Friends in essence is very challenging and I look at it as "plasticity" you know keeping my brain working.

 

Some of my SA friends are there and it is great.

 

I may not have a rich bank account, but my life is rich with friends

[strawberry17]

And I do enjoy the pictures you share

[Barbarannamated]

I have very mixed feelings about Facebook. I used to be very active with friends from high school and all stages of my life. During withdrawal, I started to get very jealous and compared my life to theirs, something I rarely did previously. Withdrawal has opened my eyes to the huge hole in the last 10 years of my life.

 

I started to participate again and am limiting my exposure to certain people. I have to clarify that nobody did anything to intentionally trigger my feelings. It was completely my *stuff*. One sweet friend is just too *RAH RAH* for me to tolerate at present.

 

I'm the opposite in that I appreciate people who are willing to honestly share the low points. This differs from a friend who whines constantly about trivial things and does nothing to improve her "awful life" or "lack of life".

 

I, too, enjoy the travel pics.

[Shanti]

Barb, I make it a point to stay away from people from High School. They are all still in the competitive mindset with their peers, and I don't want to be involved. I don't go to reunions, ever. It's not that High School was bad for me and I wasn't unpopular, but I know how these people are and when I hear of them or have seen them on FB, they act the same way as they always did. Bragging about their new cars and homes. All that is material and doesn't interest me.

 

I have a lot of friends on FB that I've met over the years from Spiritual forums. I go there every day, all day, off an on. It's my go-to place online. I like it for the same reason Nikki said. I get inspiration there, support and a lot of kind, caring people.

 

We just have to block the people that are drama. It's simple. I've widdled my friends list down and got rid of the drama. If you don't want to hurt friends feelings by doing that, then make a second profile with a screen name. I know of a couple of my friends that do this. They have one FB for family and one for online friends.

[Barbarannamated]

Barb, I make it a point to stay away from people from High School. They are all still in the competitive mindset with their peers, and I don't want to be involved. I don't go to reunions, ever. It's not that High School was bad for me and I wasn't unpopular, but I know how these people are and when I hear of them or have seen them on FB, they act the same way as they always did. Bragging about their new cars and homes. All that is material and doesn't interest me.

 

I have a lot of friends on FB that I've met over the years from Spiritual forums. I go there every day, all day, off an on. It's my go-to place online. I like it for the same reason Nikki said. I get inspiration there, support and a lot of kind, caring people.

 

We just have to block the people that are drama. It's simple. I've widdled my friends list down and got rid of the drama. If you don't want to hurt friends feelings by doing that, then make a second profile with a screen name. I know of a couple of my friends that do this. They have one FB for family and one for online friends.

 

Thanks AGAIN, Shanti. I hope to one day (soon!) have a fraction of your internal peace.

 

Between the time I wrote the last post and now, I've again become very sensitized to peoples' statuses, nothing pointed or directed to me. At times, I find it lifts my own spirits to encourage others with comments and other times, everything seems to trigger my jealousy: mention of a job, a kid/grandkid, event..

 

I found Robert Augustus Masters page to be a safe haven right now. Integral/depth psychologist and writer. He explores the dark emotions and places that I've never ventured into prior to withdrawal digging it up.

 

Can you recommend any groups or ways to find groups? I still have not gotten into Words with Friends or Farm, Zoo, etc apps. I have friends who spends hours with those, which is probably what I need as distraction right now. Aside from WWF or other games that would stimulate my brain, they sound silly.

[Shanti]

I'm in a group called "Thoughts" and "Christian Philosophy". And some other Gnostic and Spiritual groups. Any Christian group I'm in is Esoteric, which isn't mainstream. Just search on FB the word "Spiritual" and see what groups come up. Or, find groups that fit your interests. I really like Philosophy, Shamanism, Native Spirituality, Buddhism and Taoism. These things all bring inner peace. I joined one about adults with Aspergers and another that is only for my Myers Brigg personality trait, INTP. If you type in your personality type, then you'll find groups about it. It's pretty interesting to be in a group of people that have similar personality to your own.

 

There are some family members and old friends that I keep on my list. But they tend to spark negativity in me with some of their comments. I keep them on my list but unsubscribe to their updates. That way they won't know I'm not seeing their stuff.